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Hi! So this is my first post for my new blog.  I’ve started this blog because I want to share my experiences and thoughts in and on both being a CASA volunteer and child abuse.  I’ll give you a quick background of who I am.  I’m a 50 something lady who was abused for 13 years of my childhood in every way possible.  From age 3 to 16 I was abused by my step-father, physically, sexually, mentally and verbally.  (Naming them all in case you are wondering if you’ve seen child abuse.)  As time passes I’ll share more of those horrific years’ experiences with you all.  I’ve raised 3 children of my own and probably didn’t do a great job of that.  I loved them with all of my heart but not having any real role models who taught me how to parent I was just flying by the seat of my pants! Today I am a volunteer for CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocates).  CASA’s mission is to advocate for the best interest of children who have been victims of child abuse and/or neglect.

Did you know that everyday in America, 1,900 children are abused and/or neglected? And four of them will die! That’s over 600,000 abused or neglected passing through the US foster care and family court system annually! The average child in that will spend nearly 2 years in foster care in 3 different homes. Imagine that if you can. You’ve been abused or neglected by the people you love and then that the court system is going to help you. You are moved in to a foster home…..and then move again…….and yet again. Imagine how lost a child must feel. As a CASA volunteer you are in the child’s life from beginning to end of this court process. For many, the CASA volunteer is the only constant adult presence in their lives. If you would like more information on how to volunteer and help in a much needed are you can get more information at http://www.casaforchildren.org.

I signed up to volunteer for CASA last Summer with quite a bit of anxiety knowing that this would like bring up a lot of old feelings.  Anxiety aside I knew this was something I needed to do.  I asked myself “what if”.  What if there had been ONE person willing to stand up for me as a child?  What if?  I would like to think my life would have been different, maybe not, but still what if?
Fall came and it was time for training.  As a CASA volunteer you go through 9 weeks (I think) of training covering lots of material.  I think over the years as I thought of volunteering with CASA I imagined I would be spending lots of time with children and helping them to deal with all the stuff that comes with being abused.  I learned very quickly that would not be the case.  You spend most of your time working with the adults in the children’s lives.  The parents, the foster parents, the social workers, the attorneys, the judges, etc.  But once I got out and got started I also quickly learned that by working with these adults you are doing tons of good for these children!  Hopefully when all is said and done your CASA child will be in a home full of love, proper care and free of abuse where they can feel safe; rather that be with their parents, foster parents or adoptive parents.
So come with me if you will on my adventures as a CASA volunteer! Along the way I’ll share my some of my childhood story and maybe you’ll understand why I had to do this!
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4 thoughts on “Hello World!

  1. I can’t believe how close our stories are of the past. My childhood was ablitterated. I fell through the cracks and as a result it caused severe damage to my adult life. I am also 50 ish. I have four beautiful daughters and I had the best time raising them. I refused to continue the cycle of child abuse. Thank you so much for sharing such a painful and difficult thing to talk about. You are an inspiration in that you are active in helping children today.
    No one should ever forget todays children, tomorrows children and yesterdays children. They all matter.

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  2. Yukon Chic,
    I am 60ish & was molested as a child by a very old Uncle and a cousin. I still remember it but choose not to think of it as much as I can control it.
    Thanks for what you are doing.

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